More thoughts on marriage not being a financial transaction
On Wednesday, I posted a rant about how our culture sometimes makes the mistake of defining marriage in financial terms. We commit our lives emotionally, physically and spiritually, but we keep the finances separate – just in case things do not work out. I think that this undercuts the purpose and plan of marriage.
Let me discuss the topic further by using the example of Katrina who was so kind as to leave a comment on the article. She suggested that a prenuptial agreement:
should be used to protect your soon-to-be spouse from any debts you have going into a marriage. Some states allow creditors to go after your spouse upon your death for debts created prior to the marriage. I have quite a bit of student loan debt, as does my boyfriend. While neither of us have the intention of dying prior to paying them off, things do happen. I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now, and we have spoken of marriage. He is in agreement with me that any debt we have going into marriage should be listed in a prenup, even though we plan on combining finances once we’re married.
Katrina’s comment had more to it and I suggest that you click back to the original article if you would like more of the context. I have to admit that the scenario that Katrina outlines does give me some pause regarding my blanket condemnation of all prenuptial agreements. I am curious about which states allow a creditor to pursue a bereaved spouse for debts incurred by one who had passed on. I do not doubt the accuracy of Katrina’s assertion, but I marvel at the cynicism of such a law.
But do I think that this situation is an exception to my rejection of all prenuptial agreements? I took a long time to think about this and my answer is . . . no. This is a tough stand to take and I might be splitting hairs, but when dealing with important topics in Scripture, I think that the simplest, most straightforward answer is usually the best. Let me quote from Mark 10 as part of the argument for my stance:
Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female’. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Biblical marriage is taking two people and making them one, no matter the circumstances. There are times when biblical commands do not make legal, financial or even practical sense, but I trust that He will bless when we obey.
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