Comments on: How To Support An Unemployed Friend http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/ Proverbs 13:11 - "...he who gathers money little by little makes it grow." Sat, 20 Mar 2010 02:58:53 -0400 hourly 1 By: Play Yahoo Fantasy Football FREE http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10968 Play Yahoo Fantasy Football FREE Sat, 15 Aug 2009 18:46:08 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10968 [...] How To Support An Unemployed Friend. This is a tough situation to be in as the unemployed person, or someone who cares about the person who is unemployed. There are many ways you can help – just don’t recommend they sue their college because they can’t find a job. [...] [...] How To Support An Unemployed Friend. This is a tough situation to be in as the unemployed person, or someone who cares about the person who is unemployed. There are many ways you can help – just don’t recommend they sue their college because they can’t find a job. [...]

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]]> By: Charlie Bergen http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10739 Charlie Bergen Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:53:22 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10739 Very good...it is a responsibility to help those around us. These times make it even more important. As far as #4 goes...whenever you are loaning money to family or friends make sure that you can spare it and assume it as a gift. That way it takes out the tension and if they ever do pay you back it is just a bonus. Very good…it is a responsibility to help those around us. These times make it even more important. As far as #4 goes…whenever you are loaning money to family or friends make sure that you can spare it and assume it as a gift. That way it takes out the tension and if they ever do pay you back it is just a bonus.

]]> By: OneDay http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10726 OneDay Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:18:09 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10726 I agree with you Mike. That's not an easy situation. Losing your job is an obstacle, a setback. I would start listening to my friend. He needs someone to listen. He might want to talk about his situation and I could perceive how he really feels. If I listen and understand well, I am better able to help him and to encourage him. I agree with you Mike. That’s not an easy situation. Losing your job is an obstacle, a setback. I would start listening to my friend. He needs someone to listen. He might want to talk about his situation and I could perceive how he really feels. If I listen and understand well, I am better able to help him and to encourage him.

]]> By: Mike http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10723 Mike Wed, 29 Jul 2009 10:28:03 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10723 Hello Tyler, I would suggest 2 things: - Try to change his mind (I like the Shawna's example with her card). - Have this discussion with him. He might not realize how he affects people around him. Good luck! Mike. Hello Tyler,

I would suggest 2 things:

- Try to change his mind (I like the Shawna’s example with her card).

- Have this discussion with him. He might not realize how he affects people around him.

Good luck!

Mike.

]]> By: Tyler@Frugally Green http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10717 Tyler@Frugally Green Tue, 28 Jul 2009 19:34:56 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10717 My roommate was laid off about 7 months ago. After searching for more work that fit his experience and education level for a few months with no luck, he finally took a job doing physical labor for very low pay. He's always been a pretty optimistic guy, but ever since he took that job he's become very pessimistic and, unfortunately, WHINEY! He's a pretty smart guy who, from time to time, comes up with business ideas that he finds interesting. I've been trying to support and encourage him to start one of these as a side gig for awhile, but I'm afraid he just doesn't have the motivation to do it, even though he seems completely miserable (and his misery is making me and my other roommate miserable as well!). Any ideas on how to encourage someone to take a leap of faith? He's got a couple ideas that I know he could do very part time with very little up-front cost, but he just seems to broken to get started. My roommate was laid off about 7 months ago. After searching for more work that fit his experience and education level for a few months with no luck, he finally took a job doing physical labor for very low pay.

He’s always been a pretty optimistic guy, but ever since he took that job he’s become very pessimistic and, unfortunately, WHINEY! He’s a pretty smart guy who, from time to time, comes up with business ideas that he finds interesting. I’ve been trying to support and encourage him to start one of these as a side gig for awhile, but I’m afraid he just doesn’t have the motivation to do it, even though he seems completely miserable (and his misery is making me and my other roommate miserable as well!).

Any ideas on how to encourage someone to take a leap of faith? He’s got a couple ideas that I know he could do very part time with very little up-front cost, but he just seems to broken to get started.

]]> By: Shawna http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10716 Shawna Tue, 28 Jul 2009 17:31:58 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10716 As someone who is currently unemployed, I think this post is spot on. I lost my job back in May, but the worst part is that a year ago, I moved away from all of my family and friends. The best thing that a friend did to help me was to send me a funny greeting card. It wasn't a huge gesture, but it made me feel better in that moment. I keep it on my kitchen counter, and whenever I'm feeling sorry for myself, I read that card and know that it's not all bad. Other friends have helped in other ways (sending job leads, sending me expensive coffee beans, etc.), but so far, that card has been of the most help to me. As for the lending of money, it is my personal philosophy that money can be given as a gift to friends, but lending is off limits. A gift of money is unsolicited, and needs no repayment...lending of money can result in conflict if it's not paid off, or worse, if it's not used in a way that the lender seems fit. As someone who is currently unemployed, I think this post is spot on. I lost my job back in May, but the worst part is that a year ago, I moved away from all of my family and friends. The best thing that a friend did to help me was to send me a funny greeting card. It wasn’t a huge gesture, but it made me feel better in that moment. I keep it on my kitchen counter, and whenever I’m feeling sorry for myself, I read that card and know that it’s not all bad.

Other friends have helped in other ways (sending job leads, sending me expensive coffee beans, etc.), but so far, that card has been of the most help to me.

As for the lending of money, it is my personal philosophy that money can be given as a gift to friends, but lending is off limits. A gift of money is unsolicited, and needs no repayment…lending of money can result in conflict if it’s not paid off, or worse, if it’s not used in a way that the lender seems fit.

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10714 Stephanie Tue, 28 Jul 2009 17:08:42 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10714 "#2 Pass the word around" I would be a little careful with this one, some people are sensitive about being unemployed, make sure that the friend is okay with this before you spread the word! “#2 Pass the word around” I would be a little careful with this one, some people are sensitive about being unemployed, make sure that the friend is okay with this before you spread the word!

]]> By: Craig http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10713 Craig Tue, 28 Jul 2009 16:20:40 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10713 Need to just be there like you mention. Support is all anyone can really give to a friend in a situation like that. Help out a little if you could with maybe some food or place to crash but that is very temporary. Need to just be there like you mention. Support is all anyone can really give to a friend in a situation like that. Help out a little if you could with maybe some food or place to crash but that is very temporary.

]]> By: Dramon http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/07/how-to-support-an-unemployed-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10709 Dramon Tue, 28 Jul 2009 15:13:20 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1855#comment-10709 I would also recommend to review their resume if you are capable. It is hard to do a good resume and feedback is the way to improve it. Good post. I agree it is hard and for the first time, I have a number of co-worker/associates that are out there looking. In some cases, it is wrong place at wrong time. I would also recommend to review their resume if you are capable. It is hard to do a good resume and feedback is the way to improve it.

Good post. I agree it is hard and for the first time, I have a number of co-worker/associates that are out there looking.

In some cases, it is wrong place at wrong time.

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