Comments on: Are you an ATM parent? Am I an ATM parent? http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/ Proverbs 13:11 - "...he who gathers money little by little makes it grow." Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:31:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mastrangelohttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-61086 Mastrangelo Thu, 14 Apr 2011 21:55:39 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-61086 My spouse and me found a dvd related to this particular niche a long time ago. Now my spouse and i by accident ran across your own article, and this fully point out all of us ever again. Do you have an idea how has been that known as? With Eve Jaqueline perhaps. I will try to google it all today, however , anyway, very good posting, i like that point of perspective of you. For certain i will book mark your web blog, and maybe look at it significantly later on, ought to head off to work at this time. My spouse and me found a dvd related to this particular niche a long time ago. Now my spouse and i by accident ran across your own article, and this fully point out all of us ever again. Do you have an idea how has been that known as? With Eve Jaqueline perhaps. I will try to google it all today, however , anyway, very good posting, i like that point of perspective of you. For certain i will book mark your web blog, and maybe look at it significantly later on, ought to head off to work at this time.

]]> By: Great Financial Thoughts « Life of Younkinhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1224 Great Financial Thoughts « Life of Younkin Wed, 20 May 2009 14:28:53 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1224 [...] ATM Parent [...] [...] ATM Parent [...]

]]> By: Tina Bhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1236 Tina B Fri, 15 May 2009 15:48:45 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1236 An ATM Parent makes sure their child wins every school sales competition by either selling all of the candy or buying it all themselves. They also assure victory on any walk-a-thons by making large pledges themselves. Everything has a pricetag for an ATM parent. If the child is not compliant it is your fault because the prize wasn't big enough. Grades, goals, shots, dental visits, medicine,... An ATM child has no idea what it is like to live with any sort of physical flaws. They don't have to endure pimples, crooked teeth, or moles. Their parents rush them off to be "fixed" at the first sign. An ATM Parent makes sure their child wins every school sales competition by either selling all of the candy or buying it all themselves. They also assure victory on any walk-a-thons by making large pledges themselves.

Everything has a pricetag for an ATM parent. If the child is not compliant it is your fault because the prize wasn’t big enough. Grades, goals, shots, dental visits, medicine,…

An ATM child has no idea what it is like to live with any sort of physical flaws. They don’t have to endure pimples, crooked teeth, or moles. Their parents rush them off to be “fixed” at the first sign.

]]> By: Will it ever stop raining | The Wisdom Journalhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1237 Will it ever stop raining | The Wisdom Journal Fri, 15 May 2009 05:05:19 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1237 [...] Are You An ATM Parent? Am I An ATM Parent? This one hurt. If you're a parent, you REALLY need to read this post. Ouch. [...] [...] Are You An ATM Parent? Am I An ATM Parent? This one hurt. If you’re a parent, you REALLY need to read this post. Ouch. [...]

]]> By: MLRhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1235 MLR Tue, 12 May 2009 23:11:44 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1235 I run into people all the time and think "Wow, you are #$# spoiled!" Now I know what to call their parents. Most of those descriptions are spot on, too, in re: to the designer jeans and fake tans and whatnot. Hopefully one day they learn financial responsibility! I run into people all the time and think “Wow, you are #$# spoiled!”

Now I know what to call their parents.

Most of those descriptions are spot on, too, in re: to the designer jeans and fake tans and whatnot.

Hopefully one day they learn financial responsibility!

]]> By: dramonhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1234 dramon Tue, 12 May 2009 21:27:32 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1234 During high School my son was expected to pay for most items himself when he worked; he had is own checking account and was responsbible for it himself. During his first year of Engineering college, we are paying for most reasonable expenses. Personally I struggled with this, but my goal was to have the first year be successful. The expectation is that subsequent years he would be expected to have a job and to contribute to expenses. The accountability is grades. Bad grades = no money. During high School my son was expected to pay for most items himself when he worked; he had is own checking account and was responsbible for it himself. During his first year of Engineering college, we are paying for most reasonable expenses. Personally I struggled with this, but my goal was to have the first year be successful. The expectation is that subsequent years he would be expected to have a job and to contribute to expenses. The accountability is grades. Bad grades = no money.

]]> By: Wendyhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1233 Wendy Tue, 12 May 2009 17:44:06 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1233 man oh man- how timely is this? I used to be an ATM parent, and I am trying hard to undo the damage I've already done. Sigh. I do agree that I'll give almost anythign for my kids, and go without for myself. GOtta work on that one, too! man oh man- how timely is this? I used to be an ATM parent, and I am trying hard to undo the damage I’ve already done. Sigh. I do agree that I’ll give almost anythign for my kids, and go without for myself. GOtta work on that one, too!

]]> By: Stewhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1232 Stew Tue, 12 May 2009 16:44:56 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1232 Travis, that is a funny story and the timing could not be better. Thanks for sharing. Weakonomist, I think there are many ATM parents who do struggle financially - certainly not all - but many pass along their poor financial habits to their children. I have observed that many of them look well-off, but they are sometimes sitting on a pile of debt. Travis, that is a funny story and the timing could not be better. Thanks for sharing.

Weakonomist, I think there are many ATM parents who do struggle financially – certainly not all – but many pass along their poor financial habits to their children. I have observed that many of them look well-off, but they are sometimes sitting on a pile of debt.

]]> By: Travis @ CMMhttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1231 Travis @ CMM Tue, 12 May 2009 15:40:46 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1231 Funny that you posted about this. Yesterday at church we showed a video of kids of all ages answering the question what is a mom. Most kids gave typical answers, they take care of you, feed you, read you books, etc. But one of our teenagers answered "My mom is an ATM that I can go to whenever I need money." Classic. Got great laughs from the congregation. Funny that you posted about this. Yesterday at church we showed a video of kids of all ages answering the question what is a mom.

Most kids gave typical answers, they take care of you, feed you, read you books, etc.

But one of our teenagers answered “My mom is an ATM that I can go to whenever I need money.”

Classic. Got great laughs from the congregation.

]]> By: Debbiehttp://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/2009/05/are-you-an-atm-parent-am-i-an-atm-parent/#comment-1230 Debbie Tue, 12 May 2009 14:17:54 +0000 http://www.gatherlittlebylittle.com/?p=1577#comment-1230 I am most definitely not an ATM parent and my parents weren't either. I say no to my kids on a regular basis. The don't lack for anything but they aren't spoiled either. My kids have started to tote the mantra, "that's not a need it's a want". :) You are correct that there is no such thing at an ATM grandparent. I had a nice giggle about that one. My husband and I have conceded defeat when it comes to the grandparents spoiling our kids. Good post by the way. I am most definitely not an ATM parent and my parents weren’t either. I say no to my kids on a regular basis. The don’t lack for anything but they aren’t spoiled either. My kids have started to tote the mantra, “that’s not a need it’s a want”. :)

You are correct that there is no such thing at an ATM grandparent. I had a nice giggle about that one. My husband and I have conceded defeat when it comes to the grandparents spoiling our kids.

Good post by the way.

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