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By: Halloween Happiness « Two Working Parents

Halloween Happiness « Two Working Parents — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 01:22:05 +0000

[...] post that hit home with me, is only indirectly related to Halloween. At Gather Little By Little, he talks about the feelings surrounding leaving his house. We bought our house in Michigan on [...]

By: Lynnae

Lynnae — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 04:19:20 +0000

I totally understand where you’re coming from. We felt the same way (but maybe not quite as strongly), when we moved, and we were in a rental!

I hope that by now your kids are somewhat settled in their new rooms, you’ve found all the important stuff amidst the cardboard boxes, and you’ve had a moment to sit and relax in your new home. The rest of the unpacking will come in time.

By: Going Gazelle

Going Gazelle — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 19:19:18 +0000

Yeah – Dave said on the radio a while back that he and Sharon are building a new home right now. It will be interesting to see if he comments on this in the future.

By: That One Caveman

That One Caveman — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 18:40:03 +0000

As I’ve said before, a house is an integral member of your family. It does more than just shelter you from the elements. It’s there as a witness to all the joys and pains your life brings; its walls absorb the raw emotion of life and will sing of it for ages. You can learn a lot about the previous inhabitants of a house just by listening to it and examining its character.

When my wife and I moved from our first house, it was an emotional moment. As I walked through and made sure I got everything, my mind was flooded with the memories associated with each room. If and when we move from our current home, it will certainly be the same. It’s ok to be emotionally attached to a house (once you own it, of course) because it’s not just an investment, it’s a family member.

Good luck on your move. We have been praying for you!

By: Kacie

Kacie — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 17:24:00 +0000

Best wishes with your move! Many people who haven’t moved in awhile forget the emotional aspect involved with it.

I’d like to recommend a book for your wife. It’s called “After the Boxes are Unpacked” by Susan Miller.

I’m going through the book right now (it has a Christian perspective) and I’m involved with a “Just Moved” class for other women who have recently moved.

It’s helped me tremendously!

By: Momma

Momma — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 17:09:08 +0000

You can stop making me cry, any time now. We’re sending you some warm wishes to carry with you to your new home. I hope that the next family whose children will grow within those walls can give your old house just as many great memories as yours did.

GOOD LUCK!

By: Pete

Pete — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 16:42:20 +0000

Great post, it reminds me of two years ago when my wife and I moved from our little townhouse where we’d moved in when we were married.

We loved the townhouse, and it was a part of us for 5 years. It was hard to leave. I remember sitting downstairs in that townhouse the last few mornings just enjoying the sunlight that used to come in the back window through the trees, and realizing how much I was going to miss that.

Of course now that we’ve been in our new house for 2 years, I can’t imagine living anywhere else.

By: snow_drops

snow_drops — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 16:38:48 +0000

Ah.. I understand this feeling. I moved last year after living in the same apartment for 7 years. That place has its downs, but the memories are definitely irreplaceable….

By: Mr. ToughMoneyLove

Mr. ToughMoneyLove — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 14:59:14 +0000

Loved your post as my wife and I are already discussing a downsize move in a few years from the home where we raised our kids. I encourage you to move quickly toward creating memories in your new home – family parties and special events – so that you can develop new emotional attachments.

By: Rob O.

Rob O. — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 14:18:34 +0000

No disrespect to Dave Ramsey – he’s got some very practical and applicable ideas – but I think he’s a bit out of touch on this. Perhaps for someone at his level, a house is just another asset and a temporary place to hang his hat.

A house is a truly significant investment for the majority of us and I’d speculate that most only ever make once or twice in their lifetime. And for most, I’d bet a house is as much a financial investment as it is an emotional one.

Like you, my wife & I have worked hard to make our house into a home – a place that’s warm, nurturing, comforting… How can you NOT get attached to something so momentous?

Perhaps for those in Ramsey’s bracket – who probably own multiple houses – this isn’t a big deal, but those people do not have the same frame of reference that we mere mortals have.