Comments on: We see what we want to see

By: David L. Brown

David L. Brown — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 23:33:08 +0000

It is always easy to get into “Debt”, but very hard a time consum-ing…If someone is trying to help you to get out of “Debt” and you say thanks for the help, When that person sees that in the next month, that you are no better off than you where the month before, because of your careless spending attitude, or whatever reason(s) that you want to come up with…It sends a very clear message that you need to “Stop” and take a very close good look at your spending habits and your whatever attitude…When the person that is trying to help you sees that you are just going to keep going on with your whatever attitude, will when that person moves on and turns their back on you, you will probably say that the person did nothing to help you…When you do wake up in your “REAL” world, I hope that you consider getting some “Real Finacial” help…Maybe someone else will want to try to help you, God knows I sure have tried…I feel like a “Fool” used and laughted at, keep up you attitude, one day you will see and then it will be too late…you will have to face the issues on your own!!! I am sorry that you would not try to be honest and show that each month you where getting out of “Debt” in stead of going further into “Debt” God helps those who help them-selves…If you want “Credit Cards and Money” to rule your life and tell you what, when, will, how and why you will do as it tells you, then you can carry on…I am tired of your “Financial Mess” so get your act together…I am going to “Quit” trying to help you…You don’t show that you are getting any better, I just see you going in “Debt” further….You either will or you will not change your “Behavior” in regards to money issues, one day you will be having to face some issues that will require that you have some money to pay it out with, so if you didn’t save some of that money that you had to go out and spend, then you are up the creek without a paddle…So you deal with that…I am tired of your “Financial Mess” Your friend, but not when you come to me in need of money…Go try to get a signature loan…let them see your payment history, your lates, your over-the-limit fees, your “Maxed Out” Credit Cards….I am sure they will loan you the money at a very hight interest/apr and they will want you to take the lowest payments so that they can make the most of your money…

By: Uncommonadvice

Uncommonadvice — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 14:40:15 +0000

As a typical Scotsman I went through my early manhood in a drunken stupor. Always waking up with a hangover 7 days a week. Whenever my mum would call to see how I was I would regale her with stories of how drunk my mates were and what a mess they were making of their lives. Looking back it was a veiled attempt to take the heat off myself and divert her from examining my drinking habits too closely.

Nowadays, when I am on the straight and narrow I see the same tactics used by my girlfriend whenever we discuss money. I want to get our mortgage paid down so we can enjoy life in a fuller fashion whereas she sees her mates living life now – new cars, foreign holidays, shopping trips.

It is a difficult argument to win.

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By: Alisa

Alisa — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 03:11:24 +0000

There is a scripture that says something like “… everyman’s way is right in his own eyes.”

I see this easily applied to those in who remain intangled in debt. To some, it is right to buy thing that you can not afford, it is right to settle for carrying debt from month to month instead of aggressively reducing it, and it is right to do whatever it takes to “keep up with the Smiths.”

But one day there will be a rude awakening!

For any readers who have been recently awakened and want help to quickly reduce debt; I found a great free debt reduction tool at this site:

http://www.bankrate.com/brm/calsystem2/calculators/debtpaydown/default.aspx

Once you input your specific debt information, it creates a plan for tackling your debt as quickly or as slowly as you want. And it works!

Be well.

By: Steward

Steward — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 15:07:57 +0000

Other people are a HUGE benefit in breaking any cycle of self-deception – whether it be financial, spiritual, social, or moral. It just goes to show you how necessary being open to different perspectives is for quality living, even if those perspectives initially seem strange or even wrong. By engaging with them we will either begin to see their value or be re-enforced in our already held belief.

Blogs are a great way to be exposed to new ideas in a way that lets you engage with the ideas on your own terms.

By: jim of Blueprint for Financial Prosperity

jim of Blueprint for Financial Prosperity — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 14:33:02 +0000

The flip side is you’re also blind to what’s in your blind spots, right? It’s often hard to know what you don’t know, as the saying goes, so it’s nice to get another point of view when you can. I think blogging really helps that because you’re opening yourself up to the world, rather than your local friends (less risk there).

By: plonkee

plonkee — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 12:27:54 +0000

Yes. I often look at other people and wonder where they get all their money to go on exotic holidays and buy nice clothes and so on. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong because there’s no way that I can afford to spend that much and keep up with the saving and investing needed to stay on track.

And then I find out that other people have large credit card debts and no retirement accounts at all, and it suddenly clicks into place. The longer you spend being in a debt-free mindset the more surprised you will be that other people treat debt as normal. You’ll be seeing different things that you want to see. Different and better.

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 11:35:58 +0000

I completely agree that your viewpoint has a huge effect on how we deal with life. Seeing how my family was living paycheck to paycheck, I thought to was ’smart’ to spend some of my money on concert tickets, eating out, and other temporary things. I didn’t save because I thought it was futile on some level. Bills were always going to be with me and might as well just have some fun.

I know understand that money is a tool and if you can use it wisely you can eliminate some stress from your life. I’m working on paying down the debt. Changing your filter can improve your life.