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Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:07:59 +0000

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Fri, 29 Aug 2008 09:46:17 +0000

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By: Mar

Mar — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:14:41 +0000

I could not agree more with Rich. My 53 year old husband passed away in April of a sudden heart attack. He did not commit suicide but essentially killed himself with guilt and stress. After he died I found 4 boxes full of unopened mail and bills for 18 credits cards that he had run up with overdue totals of 88,000 dollars. It was in the trunk of his car. I also found out that he had a po box and that is why I never saw any of the bills. He even had credit cards in my name, which I never opened up. I am in total debt and shock from all the lies that I am finding out about. I have to forgive him because I am a Christian, but he has devastated his whole family. He withdrew money (10,000 inheritance to his 2 children) from his kids bank accounts and wiped out my bank account of 8,000 dollars . I cannot describe the sense of betrayal that I feel. My children even though adult (daughter age 20 and son age 24) have also been devastated. Money truly is the root of all evil. Adultery would have been easier to forgive. I begged my husband to share the finances with me, but it always led to fighting and I gave in and trusted him. Those who say they have recieved counseling are truly saving their marriage and on their way to a better life.

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By: When to talk about finances with your significant other? | Sense to Save

When to talk about finances with your significant other? | Sense to Save — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:41:37 +0000

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By: Rich

Rich — Sat, 24 May 2008 23:57:17 +0000

“The borrower is a slave to the lender.” Prov 22:7

That said, my wife duped me for the third time in our eight year marriage. She managed to run up ~50K in debt on nine credit cards of which I was unaware. We had this problem two times before much to my shock and horror, each time I cleaned up the mess and sacrificed to pay down the debt. She promised it wouldn’t happen again. She lied! It is wrong!! Period!!!

If I did this to my employer, I would be doing jail time. If I did this to someone off the street whom I have no legal relation to, I would be doing jail time. Somehow, within the sphere of a marriage, this is perfectly legal to do to your spouse. Wrong, traumatizing, but legal.

I am divorcing my wife of nine years after being lied to an manipulated one too many times. It’s amazing the scale of the lies she told. Not just one or two big lies but multiple “maintenance” lies to keep the deception going over an extended period of time. Unfortunately, my daugther will suffer as well for my wifes foolishness. How can you ever dig your way out a hole? What a fool.

If you are a spouse who is engaging in this type of activity take heed. You are hurting those near to you in a way that you cannot even imagine. I would rather that my wife had an adulterous affair. It wouldn’t have cost me ~100K and all of the missed opportunities that go with it.

Debt = owed money. Owed money = time & energy to pay back. Time & energy = your life, your precious time here on earth. Debt = waste.

By: Mrs. Accountability

Mrs. Accountability — Thu, 22 May 2008 02:29:45 +0000

I found your blog via the Carnival of Debt Reduction #130. No lies between Mr. A and I, but I think your post just revealed something to me. I think that Mr. A is a spender, while I’m a saver! Perhaps this is why I feel like I’m beating my head against a brick wall some days. And while he doesn’t spend a lot of money, it just doesn’t seem like we are on the same page when it comes to paying off our debt. I am definitely going to do some more research on this. Thanks for the great post!

By: Surprise! Your spouse has $20,000 in credit card debt - Smart Spending

Surprise! Your spouse has $20,000 in credit card debt - Smart Spending — Wed, 21 May 2008 23:23:41 +0000

[...] A survey done for Redbook and lawyers.com found that 29% of people between the ages of 25 and 55 have lied to their significant other about their spending. Also of note: 24% said truthfulness about financial fidelity/infidelity is more important than honesty about the nonfinancial kind, according to a post by Gibble. [...]

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Tue, 20 May 2008 05:19:40 +0000

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By: Minnie

Minnie — Mon, 19 May 2008 15:03:57 +0000

When my spouse and I went took a marriage preparation course, they spent a lot of time on finances. We both knew exactly what we were getting into, for better or for worse, but did come up with a plan together. We also give each other a certain amount every month, based on our budget, to do with whatever we please, but everything else is discussed.